This year I decided to do the Good Reads 2020 Book Challenge. I have been trying to find a way to read more for pleasure. And I love a good competition. I’ve come across some great books thus far and wanted to share them with you all. It’s February, so we’re focused on matters of the heart and Black History Month. So I’m sharing 5 relationship books by Black authors that everyone should read.

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Books on Communication

Mode One by Roger Alan Currie

MODE ONE: Whisper Into a Woman’s Ear What Is REALLY On Your Mind– Roger Alan Currie

This one was written for the fellas, but ladies you will definitely get something out of it. Do your mate’s attempts to communicate his/her needs fall flat or lose your attention? Roger Alan Currie addresses how to fix that using the 4 Modes of Verbal Communication. The best of those is Mode One. Read it free on Kindle with Kindle Unlimited.™

Disclaimer: The author writes to single men from a heterosexual point of view. Take from it what you will and leave what you won’t. The principles work for everyone.

Book Synopsis: In this 2017 updated version of his best-selling self-help book, Currie defines the four ‘modes’ of verbal communication that all single heterosexual men tend to exhibit with women of interest. This book seeks to prevent these men from finding themselves relegated to a woman’s dreaded ‘friend zone,’ and provoking women to view them instead as more of a potential husband, long-term boyfriend, or casual sex lover.

Books On Dating

The Wait by Devon Franklin and Meagan Good

The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love by Devon Franklin and Meagan Good

Harold and I did not wait until we were married to have sex. I don’t think that’s had any negative effects on our relationship, but I’ll never know. If you’re looking for a fresh start to a new relationship, this may be the book for you.

Book Synopsis: Faced with starting a new relationship and wanting to avoid potentially devastating pitfalls, DeVon and his wife, Meagan, chose to do something almost unheard of in today’s society—abstain from sex until they were married. In The Wait, the couple shares how the life-changing message of waiting, rather than rushing a relationship, will help you: find the person you were meant to be with, connect on a deeper level and discern your date’s integrity, and become the best version of yourself.

It's Complicated by Paul Carrick Brunson

It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be): A Modern Guide to Finding and Keeping Love– Paul Carrick Brunson

When it comes to dating and relationships, emotions complicate things more than necessary. Paul Carrick Brunson uncomplicates these issues with his candid and modern approach to matchmaking. A must-read if dating apps and online communication are a part of your dating strategy.

Book Synopsis: Finding and keeping a mate has never been harder. New rules are needed to navigate the complicated and changing modern-love landscape. If someone wants to find “the one,” what are the guidelines he or she needs to know, now that online dating and Google-searching a prospective love interest are the norm? In It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be), Brunson tackles relevant questions such as: Is marriage right for my personality type? How can I date more than one person without hurt feelings?

Books on Marriage

Marriage 101 by Jewell R. Powell

Marriage 101: Building a Life Together by Faith – Jewell R. Powell

I have always believed that a couple should spend more time planning a marriage than they do planning a wedding. This faith-based guide will help you plan a strong, healthy marriage in just 8 weeks. Read it free on Kindle with Kindle Unlimited.

Book Synopsis: Your marriage can be strong, healthy, happy, and blessed. Marriage coach Jewell Powell shows you how in this 8-week plan for marital success. In “Marriage 101,” you will discover God’s purpose for marriage, how to develop godly character, how to communicate effectively, and much more. With biblical examples, study questions, and Scripture meditations perfect for individuals or couples, you will be challenged to examine areas in your life that may need change so that your marriage can thrive.

Becoming Married, Staying Married by Marcus Small

Becoming Married, Staying Married: A Guide for African American Couples by Marcus Small

Over 50% of American marriages end in divorce. African American couples face a number of different challenges that make staying married even harder. The nine principles shared in this book are ones Harold and I rely upon through the rough times.

Book Synopsis: In Becoming Married, Staying Married, couples will be encouraged to see marriage as a process that never ends. Together they will reflect on current realities particular to African American couples. They will also discover nine key principles that are required for healthy marriages, including concepts like self-awareness, flexibility, maturity, and forgiveness. Practical suggestions on how to further enhance each quality are included, in addition to African proverbs and biblical Scripture that relate to marriage.

Bonus Book

Experience BLISS in Your Relationships by Anitra Durand AllenNow, I couldn’t recommend all these great books and leave out mine, right? Shameless plug. Learn what it means to be loved in a safe space and the 5 key steps to achieve it. Read my book Experience B.L.I.S.S.™ in Your Relationships.

What relationship books are you reading?